Tradition dictates that once wed you will take your husbands name, but the recent changes to allowing same sex couples to marry has seen a rise in the retention of the maiden or original name as well as an increase in combining surnames to create a ‘new name’. So whats the etiquette on name changing and do you have to go from maiden to married or are there other options available.
Name is hugely important, its a part of your unique and individual identify. I’m sure that most of you have been irritated when you’ve gotten a coffee and the barista has mispelt your name, or when your cold called and they mis-enunciate your name….. its a def grrr moment.Its not that I don’t love my husbands name, its part of him and his identify, so of course I do its just I don’t have the same affinity with it. Yet when my maiden name, containing a paltry 4 letters was often mispelt as a type of cheese and not the biblical gardens I like to think it came from…. I used to get so cross… how hard can it be i would exclaim I mean its only 4 flipping letters!
So the point of this post? Options…..ladies and gents you have OPTIONS!
A friend of ours once said ‘if we ever decide to get married it will be me (groom) changing my last name to hers because mines so common and boring’
Your marriage is the next chapter in your play…. its the start of your partnership (official if you like) so however your chose to start this next chapter just be sure that YOUR name reflects this, because how you feel about representing yourself will impact on how you present yourself as one half of a couple.
So what options are available to you:
Stay as you are, your vows make your wedding not your last name
Perhaps its your other half that wants to change their surname to yours?
Consider combing your surnames to make a new name – this is a very popular trend right now
Chose a completely new surname – although the paperwork side for this option can be complicated.
Whichever option you choose, just be sure its the right one…. for YOU!
So Valentines has been and gone and we look forward to the next reason to celebrate, and one of my favourites….. pancake day!!
Weddings are much the same as this…. following trends and festivals and one in particular which will heavily influence the wedding trends of 2019 and beyond is Pantone’s Colour of the Year.
Once released it always causes a frenzy between wedding stylists and planners as they take in the new tone(s) and start to include these in their future plans.
So here’s the definitive guide to Pantone Colour of the Year 2019: Living Coral.
An animating and life-affirming coral hue with a golden undertone that energizes and enlivens with a softer edge – Pantone 2019
Living coral is a vibrant yet versatile shade that can be styled across the four seasons, working equally well with feminine pastel florals for spring, as a stand alone colour to complement the sunshine of summer as well as deeper tones and berry shades for autumn whilst providing a pop of colour with the darkest of blacks for winter.
Have a look at our Pinterest collection for more ideas of how to incorporate this wonderful shade into your wedding planning:
So whenever your day is, this gorgeous shade can work with all colour’s across the seasons. Enjoy!!
I am so proud of what of A Cotswold Wedding has become and I have you all to thank for that.
As a blog your engagement has nurtured and allowed a creative writing to flow from me that I never knew existed, let alone LOVE! and I plan more, much more wedding ramblings for 2019.
However its the growth of my blog baby that I wholeheartedly thank you and love you all for – it has seen the development of something very passionate to me, the empowerment of couples to have a stunning and stylish wedding there way – affordable, sustainable and ethical. This year saw the launch of our first Premier Preloved Wedding Fayre, #britishbridalbootsale and finalist in the UK Blog Awards 2019. WOWSERS.
Having been and still am, an independent wedding supplier myself, it really is a role juggling 9 million spinning plates all at once, and unless you work within the industry you’ll never know or appreciate the behind the scenes that go on – the late nights and early starts, the running on adrenaline and caffeine in the strive for clients perfection/vision, so to be able to give something back by supporting and providing networking opportunities to my fellow suppliers as been intensely rewarding.
So whats the plan for 2019…. more of the above. #britishbridalbootsale will be returning not once but twice, and our feedback from its debut means that our fayre is evolving! The ethos will remain on preloved with the additional of ethical in the sense of local, independent sellers – ensuring that couples can have a sustainable wedding that can be a green as possible should they choose.
With two new events in the pipeline also – Style and the Bride and Find Your Dream Dress we have lots to look forward to.
If you’ve not already signed up for the newsletter you can do so here:
This Christmas we are celebrating the best of the Cotswolds Wedding industry, with a wedding giveaway over on Instagram.
Every day in the run up to Christmas we are featuring an awesome prize from one or more of our Cotswold Wedding suppliers.
To be in with a chance of winning be sure to LIKE this post, LIKE @acotswoldwedding and @precioustimes1 and @dymondsshoes
and tag friends or family who’d like the prize(s) – one comment is one entry so get tagging.
Today’s prize bundle includes:
1st Prize: x10 Wedding Advice Cards (worth£3.99)
2nd prize: Rhinestone “I Do” shoe transfer (worth £3.99).
T&C’s: item will be dispatched from 1st January 2019 after communication with prize winner. Item will be shipped within the UK only. Item will be shipped 1st class Royal Mail. Item cannot be exchanged for other goods or monetary value. Only faulty items will be replaced if fault is communicated within 14 days of shipping. Prize must be redeemed by 1 March 2019 or will be void.
UK entrants only, winner picked at random and will be notified by Direct Message. This giveaway is in no way associated with Instagram.
We’re now well into the festive season and we are pleased to present:
’12 Days of Christmas’
our daily Wedding Giveaway, in the 12 days running up to Christmas – from 13th to 24th December 2018.
From Bridal Bouquets to Wine tasting and Bridesmaid Dresses we have 12 days of wonderful prizes up for grabs!
Our giveaway will be run over on our insta page from 13th-24th December, featuring daily prizes to be won. Be sure to follow us over on the gram so you won’t miss out.
To be in with a chance of winning you’ll need to like the daily post, be following/liking both @Acotswoldwedding and the business offering the daily prize. Winners will be picked at random the following morning and notified by Instagram Direct Message.
Mainland UK entrants only. This competition giveaway is in no way associated with Instragram.
it’s one vote per person and we’ll keep you posted if we get through to the final stage – fingers crossed we do because I sorely missed out on attending the glittering awards ceremony when I was a finalist last year and I have THE most beautiful Gino Cerruti gown I’d like to wear 😉
Always a tricky subject….. are you inviting children and if you are how will you keep the little darlings entertained?
For every couple who couldn’t imagine a wedding without children being involved or in attendance there is another couple that’s dead set against having children there for fear of disrupting the day.
Involving children means that having a flower girl or page boy in attendance is possible. It may allow the parents to come as they won’t need to make alternative arrangements for childcare and if it’s someone you really want to attend this can be a huge factor in them saying no!
However the other side of the coin is that children are unpredictable – from toddler tantrums to teenager moping.
And if you do both agree to allow children to your day who do you invite?
Only invite children in the immediate family?
Do we invite all children of guests? Or will they be offended or unable to attend if we don’t invite their children?
And if we have several children to cater for, will they be bored?
What will they do all day? And no, we are not having a bouncy castle or a mountain of brightly coloured plastic strewn across our wedding venue! Aggghhhhh………..
However, with the right planning, involving children in the celebrations can be fantastic fun without compromising on a stylish and stress-free day.
Hedgerow Circus is a local company based in the Cotswolds, hiring beautiful play areas set up at weddings and events, and their teepee play corner complete with toys and art pack can be courier delivered to any UK mainland addresses.
We’re talking aesthetically pleasing displays that will have children entertained for hours and with nearly all the activities focusing around the teepee set up it won’t take up too much space if your short on it!
So whether your for, against or undecided you can rest safe in the knowledge that Hedgerow Circus can help.
The concept is essentially a Preloved wedding fayre with a difference – newlyweds selling on their own wedding paraphernalia alongside wedding suppliers who either specialise in preloved wedding items or who have old stock/seconds/ex hire to pass on.
You see in a world fit to bursting and with a throw a away culture we need to ensure we all do our part and with the average wedding now costing in excess of £20,000 preloved is quite frankly the way forward. If you can save on that designer dress or groomswear, find alternative options for your maids and men whilst sourcing your decor and styling at half the price it is the perfect way to ‘Boss your Budget’ whilst doing right by the environment – it also means you free up additional cash if you so wish, to splash out more on your perfect venue, the photographer of your dreams or that 5 tier wedding cake.
As opening dawned the queue started early at 10.40am and the first through the door were clearly prepared for todays bargains with lots of carrier bags. At the point of opening people were queued out to the road!
Like all boot sales, everyone arrived at once for fear of missing out on the bargains although a steady trickle of couples continued until closing time.
All in all, 100 people through the door, 100 people looking to have a gorgeous AND affordable wedding, 100 people eager for bargains. And bargains were to be had!
A special thanks to those who supported our first #britishbridalbootsale:
Over 150 of you savvy couples have already snapped up tickets (although the event is FREE and tickets aren’t a necessity!)
We have Newylwed couples looking to pass on their own wedding items as well as a few select wedding suppliers who specialize in the preloved, ex hire and seconds wedding items. Over the next week or so I’ll be taking to #instagram stories to introduce these suppliers to you.
AND IF THAT WASN’T ENOUGH…
We have got a fabulous raffle of which all proceeds will be donated to our chosen charity Wish for a Wedding… items include birdcage tea lights, table number sets AND a full wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses up for grabs! Raffle tickets will be on sale during the fayre at £1 per strip.
If your a newlyweds that has wedding items cluttering up your spare room or perhaps you feel you’ve held onto them long enough, why not take a table and pass on your preloved items to be reloved once again
For decades Brides have coveted the white wedding dress in every design possible. But is this all changing?
Designers are now creating the same beautiful designs in albeit traditional white and ivory but offering today’s discernible bride the option of having perhaps something ‘a little different’ as in dusky pink, pale grey, cappuccino or latte colour ways.
Pink Wedding Dress Inspiration
And with floral’s being a big wedding dress trend right now you only need to see the delicate rose patterned gowns overlayed with tulle to understand why – dreamy yet oh so feminine but of course still very much bridal (as seen by Lou Lou Bridal)
Floral Wedding Dress Inspiration
It’s refreshing to see at last the bridal dress evolution – we’ve watched weddings evolve from themes, to colour ways, to styles, and whilst dresses have always remained on trend and desirable by their design it’s almost felt like it they were being held back – until the embracement of delicate hues that is.
Just abit in love with these delicate Grey Wedding dresses:
Grey/Lavender Wedding Dress Inspiration
It’s not just the idea that your having something diff to the norm – it’s the option to find something that complements your style and your skin tone, I mean unless you’ve had the obligatory tan bright white is not always a good look.
Latte/Cappuccino Wedding Dress Inspiration
As with everything try on a few styles and different hues to see what suits you…. i think you may be surprised with the result!
Stay tuned to find out about our forthcoming Style and the Bride event due to take place in the Cheltenham/Gloucester area in early 2019.