Wedding Diets… DON’T EXIST!

Yep you heard it here first…. Wedding Diets Do Not Exist.

Following on from the uproar caused when this week a large UK Wedding Inspiration Blog haplessly used the hashtag, #loseweightgainahusband i write this post from the comfort of my soap box. There is no science behind what I’m about to write (rant!) just 34 years of personal experience with a healthy dose of common sense and a dollop of reality.

WEDDING DIETS DO NOT EXIST

When this first popped up on my insta feed I did a double take – no one could be that insensitive, Could they? I’m appalled that in this day and age this old fashioned and quite frankly outdated view is still out there, why?

Put simply, this came across as body shaming – the ideology that you won’t get (or hold onto) a husband if your not skinny or less than you are now. Don’t get me wrong if your all for getting into shape for your wedding and wanting to tone up or shape up then fine…

What is NOT FINE is the pressure (and body shaming) placed on brides to be (and bridesmaids to be) to be stick thin and too look a certain way….

So please join me in saying that beautiful is beautiful and love is love – size has got nothing to do with it!

When your partner proposed or if you proposed to your partner did you say ‘I want to marry you but please lose X amount of weight first’ – NO!!

Just a rough guess here 🤔 but reckon it might be because they love you for who you are?? You know the personality, little quirks and idiosyncrasies that we all have, the things that make us individual and unique unlike a generic size 10 – I mean anyone can be one of those.

For those of you currently trying on wedding dresses this can be a scary and vulnerable time, especially as we have a current gap in the market with many designers only making wedding dresses up to a size 12/14. I still recoil in horror recounting an experience i had trying on wedding dresses – i was not body confident, a size 12 which wobbled in the slightest breeze. To undress in front of a total stranger and then have them try and help you get into a wedding dress is embarrassing enough – but when the design you really want to try on and your both struggling to pull it up your body and the assistant then remarks ‘well it is a size 8, do you want to come back at a later date’ – I was mortified. I walked out there and then.

Its also no secret that weddings are stressful….. the downside of being a woman is this:

Stress increases the level of Cortisol AKA the stress hormone. Increased levels of Cortisol can cause higher insulin levels which in turn means your blood sugar drops causing you to comfort eat. And where do those extra calories go?… yep the hips, thighs and bum. Its true what they say, a moment on the hips a lifetime on the hips!

My own wedding dress had a lace up back, whilst a pain to get on and off I will be forever grateful for the chance to go up and down thanks to this clever design… why? Because i put weight ON in the run up to my wedding, not amount of clean eating, exercise and water helped – probably all due to the stress hormone mentioned above, I even attended an intense 6 week bootcamp to shift those extra pounds, I was unsuccessful. Happiness is to do with the person inside not their dress size.

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Here I am on my own wedding day. What size do i look like? 

It is our duty to be empowering our brides to feel fabulous no matter what size or shape they are and to put their best wedding foot forward as they embark on the next chapter of their lives

So whatever your size, shape or inclination – beautiful is beautiful and love is love, size has NOTHING to do with it so be happy in own skin.

Sophie

xx

Cover image taken from Rock the Frock

 

Thank You to our Wedding Giveaway Sponsors

Our first 12 Days of Christmas Wedding Giveaway was a whooping success over on Instagram and 12 lucky winners who either bagged themselves an item/product for their wedding or a couples and hen/stag party experience that were up for grabs.

I just wanted to give our wonderful Wedding Suppliers a shout out to thank them for their generosity. Over the 12 days we gave away OVER £1150 worth of prizes:

Day 1 – 10x Wedding Advice cards from Precious Times (£3.99) and Rhinestone ‘I Do’ Shoe Stickers (£3.99) from Dymonds Shoes

Day 2 – £25 voucher to spend in store at Infinity Dresses

Day 3 – £45 voucher to spend at Keepsake Corks

Day 4 – £27 Mini Cupcake bouquet from The Cheltenham Cakery

Day 5 – £80 voucher to spend on your bespoke paper bouquet from Stems from Paper

Day 6 – 2 hour inspiration planning session with The Homemade Wedding Company (worth £100-£120)

Day 7 – £100 to spend on veil or hair piece at Willoughby and Wolf as well as a bottle of bubbly

Day 8 – One bridesmaid dress from The Cotswold Wedding Company (up to the value of £100)

Day 9 – x1 Wine tasting session for 6 from Glenfall House (worth £125)

Day 10 – Fabulous Favours Workshop for 6 from The Cheltenham Cakery (worth £180)

Day 11 – Bridal hamper of luxury candle, ivory stock wedding shoes, bottle of bubbly AND the chance to make them an offer on your dream wedding dress at The Cotswold Frock Shop/The Bridal Gallery (worth £200++)

Day 12 – Supper Spa Day for 2. Evening spa from 5.30pm including 1 course dinner and wine, 1x 25 minute treatment each courtesy of Hatherley Manor Spa (worth £160)

So from me, the prize winners and all the readers THANK YOU, here’s to the Christmas 2019 giveaway!!!

 

Sophie

xx

UK Blog Awards 2019 🇬🇧 #UKBA19

It’s that time of year again and I am beyond thrilled to announce that A Cotswold Wedding has been shortlisted in the U.K. Blog Award for the Wedding Blog category….

….. Can I get a Whoop Whoop!!

This year the finalists will be judged by a combination of public vote and a panel of judges (40% and 60% weighting accordingly!)

So I have a BIG ask…. if you love our concept and more importantly our content then please vote for us!

Here’s the link:

https://blogawardsuk.co.uk/dk_vote_post_entries/a-cotswold-wedding/

it’s one vote per person and we’ll keep you posted if we get through to the final stage – fingers crossed we do because I sorely missed out on attending the glittering awards ceremony when I was a finalist last year and I have THE most beautiful Gino Cerruti gown I’d like to wear 😉

Thank you in advance for your vote 😘

Sophie

Xx

Keeping Children Entertained – Effortlessly & Stylishly

Always a tricky subject….. are you inviting children and if you are how will you keep the little darlings entertained?

For every couple who couldn’t imagine a wedding without children being involved or in attendance there is another couple that’s dead set against having children there for fear of disrupting the day.

Involving children means that having a flower girl or page boy in attendance is possible. It may allow the parents to come as they won’t need to make alternative arrangements for childcare and if it’s someone you really want to attend this can be a huge factor in them saying no!

However the other side of the coin is that children are unpredictable – from toddler tantrums to teenager moping.

And if you do both agree to allow children to your day who do you invite?

  • Only invite children in the immediate family?
  • Do we invite all children of guests? Or will they be offended or unable to attend if we don’t invite their children?
  • And if we have several children to cater for, will they be bored?
  • What will they do all day? And no, we are not having a bouncy castle or a mountain of brightly coloured plastic strewn across our wedding venue! Aggghhhhh………..

However, with the right planning, involving children in the celebrations can be fantastic fun without compromising on a stylish and stress-free day.

Hedgerow Circus is a local company based in the Cotswolds, hiring beautiful play areas set up at weddings and events, and their teepee play corner complete with toys and art pack can be courier delivered to any UK mainland addresses.

We’re talking aesthetically pleasing displays that will have children entertained for hours and with nearly all the activities focusing around the teepee set up it won’t take up too much space if your short on it!

So whether your for, against or undecided you can rest safe in the knowledge that Hedgerow Circus can help.

Take a look at www.hedgerowcircus.co.uk or follow on Facebook or Instagram for more details…

Happy planning

Sophie

Hedgerow Circus:

✉️ hello@hedgerowcircus.co.uk

📞 01993 220778

https://www.hedgerowcircus.co.uk/

Have your cake and eat it. Has the Wedding Cake had it’s day?

As we enter ‘wedding season’ (not that its such a season these days with weddings being popular all year round) planning fever will have set in for many couples tying the knot over the next few months and with this hastily made budget adjustments.

As a result, the wedding cake which has long been regarded as a work of edible art, from origins back in the Middle Ages, back when it was originally a pie, it was a status symbol – the larger the cake, the more wealthy you were and standing within the community – so why is the traditional wedding cake suddenly falling from grace?

It started nearly 4 years ago with the cupcake trend. The last 18 months however has seen an explosion of couples shunning the oldest of traditions in favour of brownie and macaron towers, cake pops, meringue kisses, dessert towers and croquembouches, wheals of cheese and more recently the rise of the humble doughnut. And not forgetting the naked and semi-naked trend which is still going strong or the slowly gaining popularity of tiered savory pies!

These sweet treats are beautifully served, arranged on towering tiered cake stands, to pilled artfully high on ornate platters to being displayed on ring walls.

The ‘cake’ has become interactive, allowing couples and their guests the chance to experience the full monty – visually pleasing display, decadent smell, tantalizing taste buds and the comforting sounds that only a brownie or macaron makes when you bit into it. And here the clincher – it allows each guest to have some fun – unlike the cake which is solely looked at and once the ‘cut the cake’ shot has been taken, typically whisked away where it is quickly and efficiently divided up and brought out on platters for the guests. Now where’s the fun in that?

Perhaps we should provide guests with their own knife so they can cut their own portion  (or if your me – slab!) of cake?

It seems a shame then, that the traditional wedding cake is falling by the wayside – not just the victim of ‘nobody remembers the cake anyway’ cost saving but due to current fashion trends where its ultra modern to serve bitesize yumminess.

For me the cake will always be king and with many cake designers offering a wide range of luxury sponges of which each tier of your beautifully designed cake can be a different flavour – whats not to love!

What do you think? Has the wedding cake had its day?

For me a beautiful tiered cake will always be top of the list, as a society we now have more options available to us in the cake stakes than ever before. but as for the wedding cake having its day….. I think it’s here to stay, it’s just sharing it’s cake crown.

So whichever sweets your fancy, enjoy 😊

Sophie

xx