UK Blog Awards 2019 🇬🇧 #UKBA19

It’s that time of year again and I am beyond thrilled to announce that A Cotswold Wedding has been shortlisted in the U.K. Blog Award for the Wedding Blog category….

….. Can I get a Whoop Whoop!!

This year the finalists will be judged by a combination of public vote and a panel of judges (40% and 60% weighting accordingly!)

So I have a BIG ask…. if you love our concept and more importantly our content then please vote for us!

Here’s the link:

https://blogawardsuk.co.uk/dk_vote_post_entries/a-cotswold-wedding/

it’s one vote per person and we’ll keep you posted if we get through to the final stage – fingers crossed we do because I sorely missed out on attending the glittering awards ceremony when I was a finalist last year and I have THE most beautiful Gino Cerruti gown I’d like to wear 😉

Thank you in advance for your vote 😘

Sophie

Xx

Wedding Series Part 5: Bridesmaid Dresses

Next up was the Bridesmaid dress but this makes me feel abit weird – I feel to old to be called a bridesmaid but perhaps not old enough to be MOH. Being a smaller wedding the bride and groom decided from the off that they weren’t keen for flower girls and Page boys.

I’ve always coveted the Annabelle dress from The Cotswold Wedding Company, and judging from their social media it’s one of the most popular designs they offer and when you see it you’ll understand why!

Naturally, like all good bridesmaids I sent a photo to the bride. Now I’d like to point out i’m definitely not a #bridesmaidzilla but preliminary discussions between us meant we’d decided that any dress needed to compliment the brides choice – which without revealing too much this dress does . Never the less we looked at lots of options and different styles but kept coming back to this one. The beauty of online browsing.

After booking a free 1hr consultation online we headed to the Cheltenham studio.

With 8 styles of dresses available, with most designs offering knee and floor length, and in a staggering 150 colour choices you would be hard pressed not to find something you and your maids love in a suitable colour choice.

The dress has arrived today and it’s beautiful – the lace up back means a few pounds lost (or gained!) between now and the wedding won’t matter – yay!

Unfortunately you’ll have to wait for the final Wedding blog post to see it in all its glory!

Happy planning

Sophie & Sarah

Xx

The Rise of the #bridesmaidzilla

Up until a few days ago I hadn’t even realised this was a ‘thing’.  A chance message in an online support group and well it seems to be a growing problem. There’s a new breed of bridesmaids out there – the bridemaidzillas. From subtle snubs to the outright rude, Brides seem to be getting a rough deal from those nearest and dearest to them – their bridesmaids.

An article for Marie Claire has given the best definition of this new rare breed:

Bridesmaidzilla – A lethal mix of frenemy and Mean Girl wrapped in a sash

and the’re coming to a wedding near you!

Some real life examples of Bridesmaidzilla antics, think of the film Bridesmaids and your on the right track:

  • A bridesmaid who knew her bestie wanted a child free wedding – but turned up with her baby as this ‘didn’t apply to her’
  • The bridesmaid who didn’t RSVP to the hen weekend or show any interest – pulled out last minute
  • The bridesmaids who didn’t like the brides choice of dress so ganged up and made her change it – this resulted in several other wedding changes due to the colour’s the new dress was available in
  • The bridesmaid who had a heated discussion with the bride on whether the groom was right for her or not – as she was to walk down the aisle

So what has precipitated this rise in maids that should be having your back, not stabbing it?

Bridal parties are larger than ever and with it brings a higher intensity, the more people in your party the more heads to please and manage. Larger parties also mean people are likely to break away and form cliques.

The instant connectivity that social media brings us means as a population we collectively have more ‘friends’ than ever and that old saying ‘you can’t please all of the people all of the time’ has never been more apparent. Sharing of ideas and inspiration at the touch of a button will inevitably get your party interacting – but also providing opinions and allowing them to be vocal over their dislikes – in a public setting.

Bride resentment is also a factor with maids secretly judging on whether the dress is big/good enough, the size of the rock, choice of venue, how extravagant is the cake etc or comparing there friends wedding to their own – is this wedding going to be better than mine?

Then there are those bridesmaids who for whatever reason just aren’t interested in supporting you on the biggest day of your life even if they’ve supported you through everything else – perhaps there poor behaviour is a result of some misguided protective factor or they have underlining issues with marriage, who knows.

Lastly, the cash, money ALWAYS ends up being a problem doesn’t it? For bridesmaids it can get expensive and well they want bang for their buck – they don’t want to be left spending hundreds on a hen weekend if its not doing what they want. If your bridesmaids are paying for their own outfits they don’t want to wear something they don’t like or feel comfortable in (although this is generally more of an American trend than UK)

Put all of these factors, together and what do you get? a melting pot of opinions, grievances, and eventually the intensity and pressure of it all will boil over leading to bad behavior and passive aggressive antics.

Relationships like life, change and evolve and what was once great at the time may no longer be a perfect fit now – friendships develop, grow and thrive; they also fizzle out. Why not be adult about things?

For those brides who may be experiencing maids who are not minding their manners remember this:

  • If you can set ground rules from the beginning – a kind of ‘what you expect’ – a google search will throw up some lovely ‘Will you be my bridesmaid’ poems which have subtle do’s and don’ts
  • Talk to them and tell them how your feeling – it may be the case that they aren’t aware of how they are behaving and could have just been caught up in the moment
  • Yes you can be annoyed, irritated and even upset by their behaviour – you are human and this IS allowed – but don’t waste too much of your energy worrying about it
  • The behavior exhibited is reflective of them NOT of you
  • If its not working out having them on your team – rescind the offer – is is YOUR DAY and its needs to be done YOUR WAY, if your not happy with them being at your side tell them

Happy planning

Sophie

xx

Win Your 20k Wedding right here in Glorious Gloucestershire

  1. The average wedding is now estimated to cost couples around 20k. That’s a sizeable chuck of moolah….. a new car, a house deposit, a year off work. So why not be in with a chance to Win Your Wedding. 


We’ve teamed up with Gloucestershire Live’s Win a Wedding worth £20k – www.gloucestershirelive.co.uk/winawedding @GlosLiveOnline @QueensHotelCheltenham
With a whole host of fabulous Cotswold Suppliers it really will be a day to remember! 

The bride and groom that win this year’s competition will win the wedding worth £20,000.

They will marry at the Queens Hotel in Cheltenham on April 13, 2018.

It will include rings, a dress, a hen party and much more.

Couples can enter the competition by visiting www.gloucestershirelive.co.uk/winawedding and the last date for couples to register is Monday, 6th February at 12 noon

The winning couple is simply the pair that collects the most tokens from the newspaper.

A supplement with all the participating couples will be published on Saturday February 4 along with the first token in both the Citizen and Echo.

Tokens will printed daily from Monday February 6 for four weeks until Saturday March 4.
All tokens must be received by 12pm on Wednesday March 8. The couple who collect the most tokens will win the wedding.
Here is a list of all the prizes that the winning couple will receive.

Venue: The Queens Hotel, Cheltenham

Complimentary menu tasting for the wedding couple

Red carpet in ceremony room

Room hire for ceremony

Room hire for your wedding breakfast and evening reception

Wedding breakfast menu for 50 adults

Evening buffet for 100 adult evening guests

Arrival reception in our idyllic Lounge area – with a glass of house wine or non-alcoholic fruit punch

Half a bottle of wine per person served with the meal

A glass of sparkling wine for the toast

White linen and napkins

Cake stand and knife

Evening Entertainment – DJ until midnight

Complimentary night stay at the hotel for the happy couple on the night of their wedding

Wedding venue prize value: £10,500

Don’t just take my word for it check out the supplier line up:

Wedding Dress- supplied by SJP Bridal

Suits- £500 towards suit hire, supplied by Tuxedo Junction.

Bridesmaids dresses- £500 towards two bridesmaids dresses supplied by Nina  Furness Couture

Wedding Cake- 3 tiered cake with set up and delivery to the venue, worth £400 supplied by The Cheltenham Cakery

Wedding Flowers- budget of £500 towards wedding flowers supplied by The Flower Bowl

Rings- supplied by Truscott Jewellers

Decorations- Up to 100 chair covers and sashes and 10 table centre pieces supplied by Sweet Beginnings

Photography- A full day’s photo coverage, including a personalised disk or USB of all the images. Supplied by Diamond Shots

Bridal Hair and Make up- Hair and make up for the Bride, 2 maids and 1 mum, supplied by Gloucestershire Hair and Makeup

Entertainment- Magician and other evening entertainment of the couple’s choice (fire performance etc) to the value of £2000, supplied by Ethereal Productions
Photobooth- 3 Hour photobooth hire and a photo album supplied by Party Foto Pods.

Chocolate Fountain or fruit tower- 3 different packages to choose from up to the value of £500 supplied by Maggie’s Chocolate Fountains

Ice Sculpture- Up to £640.00 to spend on an ice sculpture, table centre pieces or buffet sculpture, supplied by Ice Creations.

Stag Do- Activity day for up to 16 people, worth £800, supplied by West Country Games.

Wedding Car- A chauffeur driven luxury Rolls Royce or Bentley up to the value of £495, supplied by Azure Luxury Cars.

Hen party- 8 spa day passes (worth £200) for the bride to use before the wedding including a treatment for the bride and 20% for all others. A ‘together we spa’ day for the bride and groom (worth £92 each) to enjoy together after the wedding, supplied by Spa 6 at Cotswold Water Park.

Honeymoon Flights- A pair of return tickets from Bristol to a BMI destination of the winner’s choice: Paris, Milan, Aberdeen, Munich, Frankfurt, Dusseldorf, Hamburg.
Honeymoon accommodation- A budget of £300 towards accommodation in the location of the winner’s choice – HotelsCombined
You’ve got to be in it to win it!

Good luck everybody
Sophie xx