I write this as I am sitting in the trauma waiting room waiting for hubby to go down for surgery (severed his thumb tendon in a work accident)
And as I sit here, listening to bells pinging, trolley wheels whizzing by its got me thinking and reflecting on some pretty big events that have happened in our lives; buying a home, birth, death and of course marriage.
Back when we planned our own wedding, I remember the utter feeling of disparity and dispondment, the date was getting nearer, the budget was stretched to breaking point and I felt a huge weight of all the things that we still had to organise, and pay for. It took a mini meltdown for me to take stock, re-evaluate what was important. Cutbacks and changes to your minds eye plans are always tough and any deviation from ‘the plan’ can feel like failure, but by celebrating the positive and embracing the negative you can adapt and move forward. You’ll be an amazed at your own inner strength and what you can achieve – styling your own flowers, venue decorations, cake making, stationary etc
In reality the importance of place names or favours, whether you’ve had a flora extraganzena or hired the latest big boy band are in many respects the ‘small stuff’, you know the bits that aren’t really important, (the important bits are your commitment and vows to one another) but you’d dearly love to have. And please don’t get me wrong if you’ve the budget and it’s there then go for it! But if things are tight and it’s getting you down re-evaluate what important to you, what is important to you both as a couple.
And being actually married…. yes there’s the fluffy honeymoon period but life goes on.. it doesn’t remain fluffy and there will be trials and tribulations along the way (gosh that sounds bleak!) but there’s all the fun amazing stuff too that will define you as a couple and strengthen your bond.
So I think what I’m trying to say is don’t sweat the small stuff and when life throws you a curveball, or a lemon, it doesn’t mean panic, disappointment, disaster. Embrace that lemon and definitely make lemonade, of course with extra sparkle 😉